Haim G. Ginott was a school teacher, a child psychologist and psychotherapist, and a parent educator. He pioneered techniques for conversing with children that are still taught today. His book, Between Parent and Child, stayed on the bestseller list for over a year and is still popular today. This book sets out to give “specific advice derived from basic communication principles that will guide parents in living with children in mutual respect and dignity.” These Haim Ginott quotes will motivate you.
Best Haim Ginott Quotes
- “I’ve come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element in the classroom. It’s my personal approach that creates the climate. It’s my daily mood that makes the weather. As a teacher, I possess tremendous power to make a student’s life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a student humanized or de-humanized.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “How can we help a child change from undependable to dependable, from a mediocre student to a capable student, from someone who won’t amount to very much to someone who will count for something. The answer is at once both simple and complicated: We treat a child as if he already is what we would like him to become.” ~ Haim Ginott
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“Treat a child as though he already is the person he’s capable of becoming.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “While parents possess the original key to their offspring’s experience, teachers have a spare key. They, too, can open or close the minds and hearts of children.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.” ~ Haim Ginott
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“Teachers are expected to reach unattainable goals with inadequate tools. The miracle is that at times they accomplish this impossible task.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Happiness… is not a destination: it is a manner of traveling. Happiness is not an end in itself. It is a by-product of working, playing, loving and living.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “When a child hits a child, we call it aggression. When a child hits an adult, we call it hostility. When an adult hits an adult, we call it assault. When an adult hits a child, we call it discipline.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “When children feel understood, their loneliness and hurt diminish. When children are understood, their love for their parent is deepened. A parent’s sympathy serves as emotional first aid for bruised feelings. When we genuinely acknowledge a child’s plight and voice her disappointment, she often gathers the strength to face reality.” ~ Haim Ginott
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“Only if a child feels right can he think right.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or dehumanized.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Misbehavior and punishment are not opposites that cancel each other – on the contrary they breed and reinforce each other.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Responsibility is fostered by allowing children a voice and wherever indicated a choice in matters that affect them.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Adolescence can be a time of turmoil and turbulence, of stress and storm. Rebellion against authority and against convention is to be expected and tolerated for the sake of learning and growth.” ~ Haim Ginott
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“A modern teacher educates children to value their emotions.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Parents often talk about the younger generation as if they didn’t have anything to do with it.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Parenthood is an endless series of small events, periodic conflicts, and sudden crises which call for a response. The response is not without consequence: it affects personality for better or for worse.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “To be himself, one neeeds to be free from the pressure of evaluative praise” ~ Haim Ginott
- “When gentle persuasion [of children] falls on deaf ears, we resort to ridicule and rebuke. Then we return to threats and punishment. This is the modus operandi of a mutual frustration society.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Whenever I hear about a child needing something, I ask myself, ‘Is it what he needs or what he wants?’ It isn’t always easy to distinguish between the two. A child has many real needs which can and should be satisfied. His wants are a bottomless pit. He wants, for example, to sleep with his parents. He needs to be in his own bed. At Christmas, he wants every toy advertised on television. He needs only one or two.” ~ Haim Ginott
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“Wise parents know that fighting a teenager, like fighting a riptide, is inviting doom.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Teenagers crave independence. The more self-sufficient we make them feel, the less hostile they are toward us.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “To sense when a teenager needs understanding and when misunderstanding is a difficult and delicate task. The sad truth is that no matter how wise we are, we cannot be right for any length of time in our teenagers’ eyes.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Many teenagers are tormented by terrors they deem private and personal. They do not know that their anxieties and doubts are universal.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “The search for a personal identity is the life task of a teenager.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “Each of us carries within himself a collection of instant insults.” ~ Haim Ginott
- “I have great faith in ‘ordinary parents.’ Who has a child’s welfare more at heart than his ordinary parent? It’s been my experience that when parents are given the skills to be more helpful, not only are they able to use these skills, but they infuse them with a warmth and a style that is uniquely their own.” ~ Haim Ginott
